Should two single people stay together in the same house before they get married — and even if it’s claimed that it is due to logistical/geographical or traveling reasons? What if it’s claimed that they’re not having sexual relations together and the man is sleeping on the floor and the lady is sleeping on the bed?

MY ANSWER:

I wish we could say that it would be just fine for this couple to stay in the same house alone together before they marry because I’m sure it would be much more convenient that way. The problem isn’t just in the fact that they’re staying in the same house together when they’re single, because they could be very innocent in their motives and their actions.

If this couple stays together like this – even if they are innocent, they will give fuel to someone who can accuse them of doing more than they are. Many people would never believe that a couple could stay together in circumstances like this and not fall into sin so the lies could take root in someone else’s mind (even if this couple is innocent).If this couple asks a friend or relative to stay in the home when they are there together, then this could work — as long as the person is someone who is trust-worthy and who won’t lie about the situation at some later date. But who knows what happens behind the closed door?

Partly also because people who choose to live together tend to be younger or less religious. They want to be absolutely sure this is the right person before they say, `I do’ for a lifetime. Some said that they are afraid to lose their partner so they move in together, hoping that the arrangement can keep them together. But, since there are no outlined commitments to stay with each other, what if unforeseen circumstances arise like the girl met in a bad car accident and he walk out on her. Now she is left to deal with the physical pain as well as the emotional loss of having her boyfriend walk away (whom she trusted and thought would stay by her side).

Living together before marriage is great too. It gives you an idea of how that person really is. If you wait till after marriage and decide you dont like their way of living what would you do, its to late. Yes, knowing one another’s habits can be good after marriage for you to work on and get used to the good and bad sides of each sexes bad points e.g. get used to the toilet seat being left up when we wanted it down!!

However it is up to the individuals. Each couple is different, it may work for some and other for whatever reason do not find it to work.

We all know that Dana Reeve, a singer-actress who gave up some of her own career to be one of the nation’s best-known caregivers to her late husband Christopher Reeve the one-time Hollywood Superman who went through his decade of near-total paralysis after a 1995 horse-riding accident and died in 2004.Dana Reeve was a constant companion and supporter of her husband during his long ordeal. She’s there with him 24/7 anywhere and anytime. After losing her husband, another challenge fell on the shoulders of Dana Reeve as she battled lung cancer.

She had her share of adversity with the deaths of both her husband, Christopher Reeve, and her mother, within a few months of one another. Pretty much similar to our Prime Minister when he lost his beloved mom and beloved wife.

It’s been more than a month since her pass away I only spotted her news today while doing a google search on Superman. Funny that it’s been pretty low profile about her death. Not sure if it was just me.

It has never come across my mind that I would slept with a friend but I know someone out there is doing that.

No way!! Friends can never have sex with each other. In any case, they are called acquaintances. Friends are supposed to respect each other – that’s when you learn to trust and be comfortable with each other.

Don’t classified yourself as being conservative just cos you swear in your heart that you won’t do it – it’s about your moral values. You only have sex with people that you love. Having sex with friends or out of curiosity only serves to disrespect, even if it’s about being fun.

I can never imagine how friends can still continue to be friends even after having sex. Yucks! So do they go like,”last night very shiok hor. Let’s have a cup of coffee and discuss about it and then chat.”

EERKkss.

Just imagine, after the sleep over, you will became uncomfortable whenever he’s around and you just wished that he don’t brings it up and pretended things never happened and carrying on with the friendship as per normal. Or… you could avoid eye contact with him forever.

“For God so loved the world that he gave his only Son, so that everyone who believes in Him will not perish but have eternal life.” John 3:16

As we once again remember the great pain and suffering that Christ went through on the Cross for the redemption of our sins, let us not forget its significance and rejoice in the eternal life that came out of that sacrifice when Christ resurrected on the 3rd day. The curse of sin and death has been broken…..God has promised us eternal life.

The caveat to that is “we need to believe and accept not just by our mouths but by our hearts and walk in obedience”. For the price has been paid in FULL by blood and the gift of life is there for us to just ACCEPT. God bless.

Finally, I don’t have to tumpang ppl’s house anymore. Fyi, Bondedtogether belongs to Kennysia Kimmysia and he is kind enough to let me tumpang for almost a year. Tho’ I want to extend my zillion appreciation and thanks to him now. *hug* He has thought me a lot about blogging, webpaging and almost all troubleshooting kautim by him. Isn’t he a kwel bil?
I’ve never thought of starting my own webpage cos I’m cheapskate until one fine day a few lunch buddies of mine suggested that. Well, it’s kinda like a trend now. Everyone is writing a blog… everyone has their own webpage… everyone carries a mobilephone…(tho I do not want to talk about ipod nano) Most ppl is chasing for the coolest and newest gadget now. 10 years down the road, can you imagine how many ppl even for teenagers to have their own webpage? If you do not grab a domain now, you will be left choosing some names that you don’t like.

At the beginning, I have a tough time choosing between www.jessieling.com or Hijackqueen.com. As I think that getting famous in your own maiden’s name would be cooler than a nickname. It’s my own name given by my dad and if I don’t grab it now, someone might take them. No worries about nickname as there are plenty to choose and play around with.

One thing that I should get kick on my a$$ is…. I’ve actually spoilt my own surprise birthday gift from Sis Haw and bil. Dem! They was thinking of getting me my own domain for my upcoming (2 months to go!!!) birthday. On the other hand, my lunch buddies was really keen to get me started on my own webpage. But since I’ve promised my buddies…… but hey, sis and bil can always pay for my 2nd year right? hehe…..