Fatherly Figure
One day when baby Dylan grew up, he will treasure this pic as much as I do. A Fatherly Figure!
Last night, I was reading Lion King to my Princess. I love the fatherly figure that King Mufasa shown, the part where Simba was in danger and King Mufasa appear from nowhere (and thanks to the feather babysitter, Zazu) to Simba’s rescue. There is another fatherly animated movie, The Finding Nemo. Both stories make me read them over and over again. I just love the part when both father and son shown affections.
Being a Malaysian and during my younger days, I don’t remember seeing my dad’s fatherly figure. We don’t get that hugs that we seen on tube. I used to tell myself, “ahh… it’s just an acting. A father doesn’t hug their daughters.” I feel that my dad has a very big man ego. We don’t go to daddy for problems. It is always mummy. Daddy is the type that will nods but permission is always granted from mummy.
As we grew older and have kids ourself, we used to ask mummy about daddy’s character. Very true how olden days daddy is regard as the man of the house. They don’t lift a hand in helping out housechores or babysitting. Regardless if it is nappy time or midnight feed. That was before. Now that Daddy is a Grandpa, he spoilt all his grandchildrens. He even washed their soiled bottom (so shocking to see that) and cooked delicious porridge for them. I love to see the way the man feeds their baby. Imagine their big gigantic hand holding a small plastic spoon. They look so cute and the act tickles me sometimes.
Guys that doesn’t cradle their baby should be ashame of them self. Every moment of cradling is priceless. One should never stop the affectionate expression they had towards their children too. Today, fathers are pressure to balance between their role as provider and their role as an actively involved parent in their children’s lives. It is difficult for men to find that balance. Some little extra effort will give us a good result in long run. Spent more time with them and get involve in their activities. Read them a bedtime story by cuddling under the cover together. It’s the bonding that will last forever in your children’s memory and one day when they grow up, they will sit down and treasure it as much as I love to.
pablopabla said,
August 3, 2006 @ 11:38 am
I enjoy the “tucking to bed” sessions beginning with a short bible story and praying together with my daughter 🙂
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Wuching said,
August 3, 2006 @ 12:34 pm
aww..precious!
Fishingman said,
August 3, 2006 @ 3:24 pm
This write-up coming from the person who just killed and ate Nemo and Dory? Betui punya kah? Hehehe
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robin said,
August 3, 2006 @ 5:33 pm
yeah i gotta agree with you on that, seldom do we see daddies in malaysia hugs and being overly nice to their children like those seen on TV.. its just not the way the culture is back there unlike the westerners…
psychology wise fatherly figure is very important, if the father in the family acts absent and all the emotional needs of the children are sided to the mother alone (described as man-ego of the father in ur post) the children “may” turn out to have an array of problems growing up.
The Queen replied on the bolded part: We don’t develop any problem cos my mom is very strict with us. Just that we are not closed to our dad and even after we had kids, we still go to mummy for permission or advise.Â
Daddy is just daddy himself. More like a decorative vase.Âghostie said,
August 3, 2006 @ 7:39 pm
my 2 rascals are sure lucky to have me…..
hehehehe………….
anyone wants to see how i wrestle with my rascals???
hehehehehehhe
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cibol said,
August 3, 2006 @ 8:04 pm
I can’t remember when was the last time my dad did that .. If he do that now, I’ll run away. Ha ha ha .. but, I’d love to be something like that. But hey, not every man is like what you said, don’t cuddle babies, but of course most of us .. I’m not really good with kids but I think I’ll make an ok dad .. he he he
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daboss said,
August 3, 2006 @ 11:20 pm
i’m one of the useless ones… never do anything… pretend not to hear when the baby cries… 🙂
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205 good things that you do with your kids. I’m sure you place them on your lap while reading them a story. But if you don’t, it’s still not too late.Allan(don't ask me why i still awake at this time) said,
August 4, 2006 @ 3:55 am
I can’t remember any good times with my !@#$% i already shift+delete my unhappy memory long long time ago…
The Queen says: That is why I say olden days father has a very big man ego. But I can see he has the soft part somewhere in his heart. You might not know one day when you have kids on your own, he’ll spoilt them like brat. ;)Â
athena said,
August 4, 2006 @ 9:29 am
Dad used to be on long seas voyages when i was young. When I see his black staff car driving him home, I would be rushing out and throwing myself at him and kiss all over his face until my saliva is all over!! hahaa….but somehow when i grew up, the kissing and hugging stopped. 🙂
The Queen says: awww….. this is what we called bonding. The very little thing such as hugs and kisses is priceless. Somehow when we grew up, these little thing may be called morrest! wakakakaaa…
pablopabla said,
August 4, 2006 @ 12:14 pm
If we do not bond with our kids when they are young, it may be a little too late when they grow up and “have wings and fly away liao”….
MLNS said,
August 4, 2006 @ 3:20 pm
Modern day dads nowadays are more open & affectionatelah, go look see look see while u shop & u can spot them 🙂
sila said,
August 9, 2006 @ 5:20 am
olden days a bit different loh..but my father oso different. from small until now i still kiss him goodnight if i’m home. 🙂
The Queen says: Wah, so affectionate ka. But I used to see lots of Malays giving their elderly hugs and peeks. Especially those cium-cium tangan. Very affectionate.Â
sila said,
August 10, 2006 @ 9:22 am
oh yeah – it’s very cute to see the little kids salam and cium tangan their elders, and a good tradition to keep going forward. but i kiss both my parents on the cheek good night. hisham does too. i think our grandparents probably did not agree with that practice.. 😉
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