Lately, I’ve found out what type of blogger I am. Basically a Ah Soh mummy blogger. I’m more comfortable to rant about my family, places that I went or even food that I’ve cook. I think I’ll stick to that way. So, read on, it’s a mummy blog from now on.

This post is basically my reply to Gerah who has just delivered a cute little baby boy last month and now she is puzzle as work or not to work since she have a heavy heart to leave her baby son at the daycare. My comment on her blog is just too long so I thought maybe I’ll put my thoughts in my own blog to share with the rest.

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From the moment I stepped out from my college with PSC (Private Secretary Certificate) cert in hand, I’ve been working and job hopping ever since to the day I got married and have kids. I love my job. I love my company. I love my boss *cough*…. and of course what goes in to my bank account every month end.

After I delivered my eldest Princess, I am so eager to get back to work after my 2nd months of maternity leave. At the same time, I am bored staying at home, looking after kids full time which is not what I’m looking for. I manage to get a good nanny (and of course with some hicup here and there) and that save me half of my worries when I’m at work. The same goes to my Prince but I returned to work after 6 weeks of maternity leave. (That’s another story cos my boss lack of a pair of helping hand and really need me there.)

Being a full time working mom has it’s disadvantage too. I leave home at 7.30am and home by 6.30pm. My responsibility as a mummy continue. Cleaning, laundry, cooking, yada, yada… till it was bedtime at 9pm. ( Don’t even talk about getting a maid. They give me more problem than my kids!!!! and I am better off without them.) I’m lucky cos hubby help around the house occasionally like doing the dishes and picking up toys (dem! Maybe I should donate those toys to charity). But hubby only does 5 out of 20 things around the house. We can’t depend on them all the time right?

When my Baby Princess came along, my perception of being a full time working mom change gradually. Like the saying goes, “2’s a company, 3’s a crowd”. End of the day when I am home from work, I felt that this old soul of mine is getting exhausted. In a way, I wish that I am not holding on to my day job and be a stay home mom.

To me, a stay home mom gets to juggle between playtime with kids and household chores. To a husband when they return home from work, they expect dinner to be there, house to be squeeky clean, no wailing cry baby but do they know that us, being a working mom can’t meet that expeactation without a little whining? No, they don’t and they won’t understand what we are going thru. It’s is undescrible. Sometimes I think women are curse with housechore. Lately, I have been thinking of quiting my day job and be a stay home mom but I know it’s not easy financially and physically. Give me another 2 years maybe I will. I admire looking at those mothers that drop and pick their kids from school and walking around the mall during OFFICE HOURS!!!

And my answer to Gerah, Malaysia had a lower cost of living. Even if we don’t work, we can still afford luxuries and spent like no body business provided our hubby bring back a good pay. To work or not to work, it solely depends on your priority. Do you need that income apart from what your hubby brings home? If yes, no matter how troublesome (expressing breast milk and so on) and how much you miss your baby, life goes on. Bring back the money, lay food on the table and everyone had a hearty meal and a good night sleep. If your prority is your kids and family then you should stay home and put on the apron and pants (gee… be a professional chef!). Both had it pros and cons. It all depends on how you look at them.

Anyway… *sigh…. I really need to get away from the city and let loose my hair. I’m going bonkers! And yay! I’m almost there 🙂 🙂 🙂