To Stay Single or Married?
According to a survey revealed few days ago by Simon & Caroline from 104.5FM (Light & Easy) , two third of adults prefer to get married than staying single. As usual, it was then the subject of debate as what is your choice – single or married.
During your teenager years, you have this fantasy of wearing that bridal gown, walking down the aisle and saying ‘I-do’. Everybody dreams of that. Nobody wants to be a spinster or a bacholer their whole life. To me, married life is good. You have someone to share the joy, laughter or even a fight with. I would say marriage is also fated. You meet your other half, things went well, you get married.
One third of adults who choose to be single probably had gone thru at least one broken relationship. As time passes by, they became desperate and eventually lose hope. They are such a sore losers to the extent that they cry out loud “Being single is good! I don’t need commitment to tie me down. I have my buddy.”
Halo, you can’t have your buddy with you all your life. You might not want to get married but they do. And what happens after they got married? You are left drinking at the bar all by yourself. Now, quit saying single life is good. God created Adam and Eve and God wants the male and female to be a couple (you can leave gay aside as of now).
I’ve heard lots of lame excuses as why being single is good. That is all so lame. Why can’t they just admit that the right person is yet to be found? That is so simple to answer, right? When you tell someone that you choose to be single, their perception is “this fellow has no more hope”.
What about one day you decided to marry your piao mei at the age of 40 or 50? Hey, that is what we called a fate, ok.
So, do you prefer to get married or do you still stick to your stuborn mind to stay single?
*Reminder: (Please leave children out of this topic as you can choose to get married without having children. The plus point of getting married is “LICENSE TO SCREW” unless you love to have different partner. That is another different story liao. And this post is not targeted at any individual. What I wrote is based solely on my personal opinion.)
simple american said,
February 8, 2007 @ 1:04 pm
haha Screw License. Thats tight. Well. You know what I mean.
They say married people live longer too. I guess screwing is healthier with your lovey. LOL
Single people should not give up hope. Look in the last place and you will find your love. The sooner the better. 😉
may said,
February 8, 2007 @ 2:28 pm
hmmm… ahhhhh… errmmmmm… both “options” have their own pros and cons. whatever works for the individual!
Bernard said,
February 8, 2007 @ 2:37 pm
STAY married is better, of course… don’t get married and NOT STAY married.
athena said,
February 8, 2007 @ 2:56 pm
auntie…94.5 not mixfm? wehre got light and easy…
The Queen says: Haha, typo corrected. TQ.Â
the Razzler said,
February 8, 2007 @ 4:06 pm
Queen … wahhh … serious subject huh? I do believe that getting married is more or less .. fate plays a part. But staying married needs lots of understanding & patience. We may have to compromise a lot on our believes & habits. My wife is a staunch Christian & I am a born Buddhist & we’ve been married for more than 6 years now. :):)
However, being single (in the present time) IS a Choice … what not, with equal earning power & opportunity for everyone. I will respect each & every individual’s decision on this matter.
HORNY ANG MOH said,
February 8, 2007 @ 4:45 pm
There r pro & con of getting married. I must say getting married have more pros then cons, one of which is as u mention ‘licence to screw’ hence married people tend to say healthy as they do sexercise almost every day! So when is ur big day???
velverse said,
February 8, 2007 @ 6:24 pm
Hahaha… I sorta agree and a little disagree tho.
Er… lame excuses eh. It is easy to admit we haven’t found the right one. But people around us would just not understand and make stupid statements like “you are too picky/choosy”. Hence… the answer of why lame excuses surface? coz people say lame things to us.. it’s as if one who have another half is not a picky person.
I won’t say I don’t want to get married and settle down. Just that now is not the right time. haha…
just me said,
February 8, 2007 @ 7:31 pm
If one is not choosy, it is easy to find a partner and get married. Getting married brings with it responsibilities and commitment , so some choose not to get married but just to stay together.
A single life can be a fulfilling life but ultimately many singles go home to an empty apartment and loneliness
Lil said,
February 8, 2007 @ 8:01 pm
i don’t think it’s fair to label those who opt for singledom as “sore losers”… sometimes, once burnt, it takes a while to get back into the game, and if the person is not ready, then he/she is simply not ready for commitments… and at that time, it would be true for these people that being single IS good…
definitely better than couples who are stuck in troubled/loveless relationship/marriage but refused to acknowledge it because they fear social backlash, the prospect of going solo etc and continue to be miserable, isn’t it..?
it’s really not our place to say which is better for other people… afterall, we know ourselves best and so do they, they know themselves best.. 😉
DeV|LisH said,
February 8, 2007 @ 10:43 pm
Ya i most certainly agreed with wat Lil commented. No matter what other ppl said it’s all their point of view we cannot called them sore loser rite? i mean for u , u’re lucky to have a good marriage. But how about those broken marriage? so like i said we are not in the position to comment on others opinion.
If they pickpoint on OUR life only then u can shoot them back but nevertheless i see no point to say sore loser if they said they prefer single life. Cos no matter how good a person judgement’s are. Who knows after marriage they regret what they have done?
So if they want to be single let them be. If u prefer to be married then so be it. As simple as that =) just a respect for each other’s life. No matter how they live their life.
Purple D said,
February 8, 2007 @ 11:03 pm
Pity married couples who
– have to run around picking up kids from all sorts of activities
– cleaning up the kids, worried about kids school work
– worried about money for kids future education
– getting pissed at kids teachers
– getting pissed at kids for not doing well in school
– getting pissed at kids for misbehaving
– don’t have enough quality time to themselves
– have to dump kids at someone’s house because u go on vacation
– can only have screw license with one person
If you don’t have these issues, congrats……you’re probably single! :p
msfeline said,
February 9, 2007 @ 7:35 am
heeh, i am glad i fonud someone really nice and got married then!
thanks for visiting my site!
wuching said,
February 9, 2007 @ 1:52 pm
it would be nice to marry your soulmate but not everyone is that lucky in life..
Allan said,
February 9, 2007 @ 2:15 pm
Havent enjoy fun yet,so being single is still acceptable + money is important,no earn more money how to get married? And currently also no girls come approach me (hehe!)…But to be honest very jealous seeing other couple that walk in the street at valentine day…haiz what to do…
william wilstroth said,
February 9, 2007 @ 8:34 pm
Whoa…. getting married is fun… i am getting tied legally this coming 10 of March, 2007… wish me luck…
Bengbeng said,
February 11, 2007 @ 8:23 pm
My answer to your topic : we are all so dreadfully mortal and there will come a time when we are not able to physically take care of ourselves. Having a child or children gives us hope of immortality when we leave. Btw i love yr food pics of wuching’s blog. http://www.mylongkang.com/2007/02/11/sibu-benevolent-society-nursing-home/
yenjai.net said,
February 12, 2007 @ 8:55 am
I would agree that both sides have their plus point.
In life, there is no easy way to say : Single or Married
Married to a wrong partner, and you are doomed.
Single, but clueless to how to manage your life, you are fated to loneliness.
Bernard, yeah. Staying married is an art takes a lifetime to learn.
Still fine tuning it after 8 years.
The Snark said,
February 12, 2007 @ 9:10 am
Try this one http://www.nomarriage.com
Having done both, I know which I would rather choose.
Being married can be fun. Being married to the wrong person isn’t.
Dakota said,
February 12, 2007 @ 12:39 pm
Well, I guess your opinion is ok.. I read what you said, but I think it is a bit old fashioned don’t you think? And also descriminating against gay people, or lesbian people… I am no activist, but just because marriage worked for you and you think it should for other people doesn’t mean you can say for such a reason, how can marriage be made by god if people on earth don’t even practice it in a good way? You wrote as if it is bad to be single? Did you ever consider some people want other thing in their life and not just become married, have one guy, one girl, or just run around busy everyday after kids and other household essentials? My parents were married for 26 years, and look at them, they divorce after such a long time, 26 yrs of hell for my parents, all because they tied the knot.. I think getting married means you can’t be your self, someone else is always in the background, can’t do what you want, cant be around who you want, can travel all the time, can’t shop for stuff you want, cant go out with people that the person doesnt like, cant shop for this and that because t his person said no, got to support this person sometimes to the point of hell and being broke, gota get a mortage, go to work, have cars, have a house, wow.. how fun? slavery more like it!
I love god, I am open to all gods, I am buddhist, however I believe some things god says, but who’s to say that there is only one way, and that only one adam and eve and all the rest? your post was just what you think? but just because your christian gives you a license to descriminate(regardless of your opinion) sorry, but this post was as much or an eye opener for me, as much as it was also closed minded.
You shoul recognize that everyone got a life, got an opinion, got a preference, and to be frank with you, isn’t prepared to just marry the next person that gets their fancy or is good with them, marriage is sacred and these days its just a spending binge.
And who is to say you need someone else to help you live your life, be by your side, this is quite a weak and very pathetic value to life, we’re humans.. and in some situations, not everyone is meant, or for that matter wants to be married.
This is your blog,. your opnions which I passionately respect, but for me, this is one of the most closed minded entries you have written. actually turned me off god, christianity, marriage and even your website, I’m really depressed now, and I’m not just dramatizing. Thanks.
Dakota ox. you have a nice day. bye.,
Dakota said,
February 12, 2007 @ 12:44 pm
Also, who said god wanted male and female, male and male, or female and female to be a couple? didn’t god just want us to be happy in our lives regardless of what we did or do? hmmm.. you need to think about that one la,
Dakota said,
February 12, 2007 @ 12:46 pm
Does god really love us if he doesnt let us be our selves? god is a saviour. he’s not meant to be a controling person, and im sorry to say this, but how can god be a good example.. baby jesus wasnt even created from sex, he was an egg or whatever you would like to call it, how would the bible, you or any other faculty know? you need to open your mind, that all i gon say, last comment liao. done.
Milly said,
February 12, 2007 @ 1:08 pm
****The plus point of getting married is “LICENSE TO SCREWâ€****
WHAT??! You need to get Married to get a license to be able to have sex? HAHAHAHA. Oh Man! that’s about the dumbest thing I’ve heard in ages.
My Parents weren’t married when they decided to have me. OOPS! Bad Parents! they didn’t have a license! AND MY DAD’S JAPANESE!
The main point of marriage isn’t just a license to screw, dear. I have no idea what gave you that idea, but If I wanna have sex I don’t need no friken marriage. No one does. It’s done by choice, and not by a license.
Julia said,
February 14, 2007 @ 1:50 pm
Getting married is not necessary lah. And if never have children, sure your mother in law and aunties all make noise and want you to have children so that one bo bian, die die also must have kids right, at least ONE. (i know you said dun put children in but have to put lah). License to screw, that one 18 years old obtained liao, so not so much getting married and obtaining your license. Plus you have to share your hard earned money everywhere, a bit sadded right? You remain single, you have lotsa freedom, can go holiday can do anything, with the money you earned. I see my parents, they work so long also in the end the money also will go to us, we buy this we buy that also they work de. Even if dont have us, sure my mom will use my dad’s money. So so so, dont get married! Later lah, enjoy life first.